The Best Way to Get a Difficult to Marry Man Saying "I Do"?

The Best Way to Get a Difficult to Marry Man Saying "I Do"?

You have devoted a lot of time to your relationship. Maybe you've been living with your man for a significant amount of time, or maybe you don't live together and he has been your boyfriend for so long.

You've been sharing with him a lot of beautiful moments and an important part in your life. Even your relationship could seem to others a perfect match, but only you know that there are some flaws in it.


You want to get married but he doesn't. You dream about becoming his wife because you want to feel safe, you don't like feeling insecure about him, you want to get some more commitment from him, and... because you want a beautiful wedding! You know you deserve it after all this time.


You have asked him about this but you only get the same evasive answers that you have heard all along: "Excuse me, but I'm not ready yet", "It will be very expensive, what if we rather spend that money in... ", "there's no need to be married, we love each other", "there's no need to bind each other, we know our love will last forever" and so on.


You feel desperate because you have tried everything you know but it seems there is no way to change his mind. It seems that the longer the time you've been together, the more resilient your man becomes about getting engaged. So, what can you do? Are you going to wait until he decides to take that next step?
Don't worry. There is a solution to your problem. You can follow a simple set of principles and steps to lead him into the path of getting married to you.

 In fact, there is a completely proven method you can follow. It targets the most basic instincts of a man and it is so very effective that you could be married into some months, in the worst of the cases. But before going to the first steps, we'd better start with this simple fact:
The enemy you are fighting against is the natural and widely spread men's resistance to get engaged. It comes from a sense of freedom he doesn't want to lose.

 A man loves his independence and any situation which he supposes will threaten his freedom, being the possibility of getting married or any other circumstance, lights up some kind of danger light into his brain that causes a self defensive reaction, in this case is resistance to get married to a woman (ANY woman, it is not personally related to you).


This leads us to some important situations you should avoid when you want to persuade a man to get engaged to you:
  • Don't try to force him into making any decision about matrimony. It is a proven fact that you will only get more resistance from him instead of being more cooperative.

  • Don't try to make him jealous. If you use one of those methods your friends have advised to you to get him feeling like he would be losing your love because other man could be pretending you. Very much men, in a sudden boost could say "OK, go with him" in a very unsuspected and surprising way.

  • If you are sexually involved by now, this advice doesn't apply to your situation, but if you don't, you have a very powerful weapon in your hands. Despite the fact that you would seem out of fashion, don't give him the sex he almost for sure is asking to you, until you get married.

  • Don't try to challenge him with the classic ultimatum: "we get married or our relationship is over". You can get one out of two results: maybe your man agrees on getting married, you obtain what you asked for, but he will feel that his decision wasn't made by himself, causing a feeling of being tricked into a situation he didn't wanted to be into, a feeling that sometimes survives forever inside your husband's mind causing troubles in your matrimony, or you could get your man saying "bye bye" and then being dumped by him.

  • Don't cry, threaten or pray, because a marriage must be founded on dignity and mutual respect, which could be dramatically diminished by this circumstance. This is one more way of starting your matrimony the wrong way, besides your man will feel forced as in the former case.

  • In almost every relationship, the woman depends psychologically on her man to make decisions, to feel complete, to talk to him about her problems, but he doesn't depend the same way on her. It is a someway unfair situation but it is true in most cases. The good news is that this situation could be equalized or even reversed.

  • Any reaction of yours that causes arguing with him will lead to a problematic start of your matrimony, or to a troubled relationship that makes that wedding day each day very much far and more difficult to achieve.

  • Try to not to impose getting married as a condition to your support or participation in a good relationship because it only will trigger the instinct of competence that exists inside every man, leading him to the same unsupportive reaction, starting an action-reaction vicious circle among you and him.
Now that you know the main Dont's, let me tell you that the secret to get him marrying you it this simple: you just have to get your man considering a possible marriage in some way he'd think that it was his idea, NOT YOURS. You must use the knowledge you are obtaining by now in a very subtle way for him not to realize that you are making an effort to trigger inside his mind the idea that something is missing in your relationship.


Once he suspects there is some trouble to solve, his natural tendency to protect what he owns will lead him as a next step to think about reinforcing your relationship in some way (because a man likes to protect what he considers is of his property). From this point the idea of getting married is not too far. It rises into his mind by itself, he starts to think about the situation leaving behind the fear of losing his freedom which turns into the urgency of reinforcing his property, and the same old story starts again.


Trust me. Your man may be a geek, a nowadays man, a modern and educated guy, but in some basic questions, he still thinks as a caveman. He still wants to fight for his property. You can use your feminine intuition to apply these principles as your feeling dictates to you or you can use some proven method with easy steps presented in a correct order that assures you will succeed in marrying to him.


Human relationships are complex by nature, and one of the most complicated stages of relationships is making the decision of getting married. And this is just because it is very difficult for men and women to agree on this subject.


For most women it is difficult to understand why settling down is by far more difficult to accept for a man. In fact, for most men it is a very difficult to face situation that requires a deep and self convincing process.
Then it is not surprising that more and more women involved in too long-lasting associations are wondering " How can I get Married " to him? or " How I get Married? " without finding a solution to a seemingly going-to-nowhere relationship.

 

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