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Can Employers Check Divorce Records When Hiring Staff ?

Can Employers Check Divorce Records When Hiring Staff ?

 

If you are a job seeker, you would certainly like to know whether an employer can run a background check on you and look into your divorce records. It is certainly important to learn what private information can be accessed in these records. Find the answers to all of your questions now.


Legal Aspects

The divorce records are available to the public. This means that any person including an employer can look into them without disclosing their name. Generally, employers can check all vital records. It is important to note that the amount of information contained in the records available to the public varies from state to state.
Usually, only the divorce certificates are publicly available.

 They contain the names of the former spouses and where and when the marriage was legally terminated. In some cases, the divorce decree issued by the court can also be seen by employers and other members of the general public. It includes details on alimony, property distribution, custody, visitation rights and child support.


Disclosure and Consent

In most cases, employers are required to inform job applicants that a background check will be performed on them. They are required to disclose details as well. This means that you will know whether a potential employer will check your divorce records and other vital records including birth and marriage ones. You should keep in mind that employers are typically required to run the check through a specialized agency. Hence, the risk of them coming across false discrediting information is quite low.


Depending on the employment legislation in your state, potential employers may require your consent to run the check. Generally, this is the case in many states. If you do not want an individual or organization to snoop into your vital records, you should not give them your consent to do so. Just keep in mind that background checks have become commonplace and that an employer will most certainly not hire you if you refuse to undergo such a check.


Relevance

While criminal and credit records have relevance to many jobs, this is certainly not the case with divorce records. Employers typically do not care whether you are single, married or divorce. Besides, the laws against discrimination will most certainly prevent them from making a decision on whether to employ a person based on their marital status.

 Still, the fact that you have been divorced may affect the overall impression that the potential employer has on you.

If you are currently looking for a job, you should certainly go over the divorce records and other relevant public records to confirm that there is no incorrect information about you.

The Impact of Divorce on Families !

The Impact of Divorce on Families !

As a licensed mental health professional, I work with many individuals, couples, and families who are affected by divorce. I see the devastating effects that breakups can have and am dedicated to helping people develop the skills to cope with experiences like divorce.

Major Disruptions
The decision to divorce causes major changes in the lives of all family members. Some upheaval is inevitable. The main trouble areas are:

1. Financial: Money becomes a huge problem for most people. The cost of a divorce is extremely high, and two households cost more than one.

2. Career: Being less focused at work and spending time away from the job for divorce-related appointments takes its toll.

3. Logistics: Running your home is more difficult because you no longer have a partner to help with daily chores.

4. Emotional: Most people have periods of depression, sadness, anger, and fatigue.
Lots of Feelings


People who are experiencing the breakup of their marriage can expect to have a wide variety of feelings. Some call it "the crazy time" and there is even a book about divorce with this title. The following complaints are common:

• Poor concentration
• Nightmares
• Sleep problems
• Fatigue
• Mood swings
• Feeling tense
• Nausea
• Gaining/losing weight
• Feeling nervous
• Somatic complaints


Divorce profoundly affects children. In Surviving the Breakup, author Judith Wallerstein describes the experience of 60 divorcing families. She outlines the following key issues for children of divorcing families:
Fear: Divorce is frightening to children, and they often respond with feelings of anxiety. Children feel more vulnerable after a divorce because their world has become less reliable.


Fear of abandonment: One-third of the children in Wallerstein's study feared that their mother would abandon them.

Confusion: The children in divorcing families become confused about their relationships with their parents. They see their parents' relationship fall apart and sometimes conclude that their own relationship with one or both parents could dissolve, as well.

Sadness and yearning: More than half of the children in the Wallerstein study were openly tearful and sad in response to the losses they experienced. Two-thirds expressed yearning, for example: "We need a daddy. We don't have a daddy."

Worry: In Wallerstein's study, many children expressed concern about one or both of their parents' ability to cope with their lives. They wondered if their parents were emotionally stable and able to make it on their own.

Over half of the children expressed deep worries about their mothers. They witnessed their mothers' mood swings and emotional reactions to the events in the family. Some children worried about suicide and accidents.

Feeling rejected: Many children who experience a parent moving out of the home feel rejected by the parent. The parent is usually preoccupied with problems and pays less attention to the child than in the past. Many children take this personally and feel rejected and unlovable.


Loneliness: Since both parents are preoccupied with their problems during the divorce process, they are less able to fulfill their parenting roles with their children. The children may feel like their parents are slipping away from them. If the father has moved away and the mother has gone off to work, the children often feel profound loneliness.


Divided loyalties: The children may (accurately) perceive that the parents are in a battle with each other. The children feel pulled in both directions and may resolve the dilemma by siding with one parent against another.
Anger: Children in divorcing families experience more aggression and anger. It is often directed toward the parents, expressed in tantrums, irritability, resentment, and verbal attacks.

 Many children see the divorce as a selfish act and feel very resentful about the resulting destruction of their lives.
More than one-third of the children in Judith Wallerstein's study showed acute depressive symptoms such as sleeplessness, restlessness, difficulty in concentrating, deep sighing, feelings of emptiness, compulsive overeating, and various somatic complaints.

The symptoms that many children may have during the divorce process either moderate or disappear within 18 months after the breakup. Of the symptoms that remain, the most common are:

1. Manipulative behavior was reported by about 20% of the teachers of the children in Wallerstein's study.

2. Depression was diagnosed in 25% of the children and adolescents. The symptoms of depression in children include:

• Low self-esteem
• Inability to concentrate
• Sadness
• Mood swings
• Irritability
• Secretiveness
• Isolation
• Self-blame
• Eating disorders
• Behaving perfectly
• Being accident-prone
• Stealing
• Skipping school
• Underachieving at school
• Sexual acting out
You should consider finding a therapist to work with if most of the time you feel:
• Alone
• Depressed
• Numb
• Exhausted
• Isolated
• Hopeless
• Overwhelmed by your children
• Overwhelmed by your feelings
• You are sleeping too much or too little
• Worried
• Anxious
• Afraid


Garrett Coan, MSW, LCSW is Founder and Director of the Center for Creative Counseling, a team of expert and licensed therapists and coaches providing phone and internet counseling services to clients throughout the United States and worldwide.

Benefits Of Divorce Attorneys ?

Benefits Of Divorce Attorneys ?

Some life changing events are nearly impossible to pull through without the help of others. With a situation, such as a divorce, the chances that family and friends will not settle everything are extremely high.

Attorneys have been around for years to help people handle all of the complicated details that unfortunately come with getting a divorce. Finding your own personal lawyer can be a simple task as law firms are made easily accessible to all people.

 Your next question may be, how will you benefit exactly by seeking an attorney to put a final end to your divorce?

One specific dreaded part of a divorce is interacting with the other party. It becomes stressful, emotional, and at times impossible to finalize the event in a civil manner without help. A hired lawyer will work directly with the opposing group to settle the matter quickly.

 With their assistance you can avoid seeing your old partner until a final court date is held to wrap up the event. Arguing and manipulating can occur without this help, leaving one person at risk of an unfair situation. When dealing with a divorce money, children, and property are all potential factors that deserve the shot at a fair outcome.

Considering these listed additional factors, one can expect an attorney to push for results that will leave them satisfied. They will spend the time needed with people to gather all information pertinent to the case. After they analyze the details the final result usually involves a lengthy amount of paperwork.

 This is also a time for them to step in and make filling out blank forms a hassle-free experience. A divorce is not a brief event; however, the process can be shortened significantly when having a hand with the details.
Knowing the benefits is one part of the battle, but being prepared is another.

Perhaps you decide after all to go in to the situation alone. What are you to do when you find that the opposing side has a professional already linked to the case? This single fact is enough to put you behind the game. A lawyer knows what, when, and how to speak to involved members.

 You could be deserving of much more then what was given solely because you didn't have the knowledge to provide beneficial information to a judge. Don't lose all your investments over a divorce when all the necessary help is right at your fingertips.

Statistics of Divorce !

Statistics of Divorce !

Divorce has become a common occurrence both in the United States and around the world. According to divorce statistics, it is estimated that between 40 percent and 50 percent of first marriages end in divorce in the United States. In some countries, divorce rates for first marriages exceed 50 percent.

 Second and third marriages in the United States have even higher divorce rates. According to statistics, second marriages fail at a rate of 60-67 percent, and third marriages fail at a rate of 73-74 percent.
Divorce statistics show that there are number of reasons why marriages fail.

According to divorced couples, the number one reason that marriage fails is due to either a lack of communication or poor communication. The second most cited reason for divorce is martial conflicts and arguments. Thirdly, many divorced couples say infidelity led to divorce.

While these are the primary reasons cited for divorce, statistics show that there are several underlying factors that contribute to these trends. These factors include, but are not limited to: age, education, income, religion, and cohabitation.
Age


Statistics show that those who get married in their mid to late-twenties are less likely to get divorced that those who marry at a younger age, and that this age group tends to be more satisfied in marriage than those couple who marry later in life. For divorced couples under the age of 20, the women are more likely to initiate the divorce; whereas for divorced couples over the age of 20, the men are more likely to initiate the divorce.


Education and Income
Education and income both play a role in divorce statistics. Data shows that a married couple with a higher education and a higher income is less likely to divorce than a couple with lower education and lower income.
Religion


While several religious denominations show a slightly lower divorce rate of 21-34 percent, other data suggests that those with no religious affiliation have a lower divorce rate than those with reported religious affiliations. It has also been suggested that pastors of local congregations, for various reasons, may not be aware of how many divorced couples are actually in, or have been part of, their congregations.
Cohabitation


Reports suggest that between 40 percent and 85 percent of couples who lived together before getting married had the marriage end in divorce.

Divorce statistics indicate that about one-fourth of adults in the United States have been divorced at least once in their lifetime. Characteristics of individuals that have a higher probability of divorce include:

o younger age at time of marriage
o lower education
o has children from a previous relationship
o cohabitation prior to marriage
o sexual activity prior to marriage
According to divorce statistics, it does not appear that only one factor contributes to a couple's decision to divorce. Although three primary reasons have been identified by divorced couples as the leading causes of divorce, it seems that underlying factors may contribute to these issues as well.

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Divorce in America - Why?

Divorce in America - Why?

In American Society, people want only what is good for themselves, even if it's not the best for someone else. Society has changed from the importance of family to the importance of me. Statistics on marriage and divorce show that Americans have gotten lazier and more self-absorbed.

 This may explain why the U.S. has the highest divorce rate and the highest rate of solo parenting in the Western world. People have the attitude, "If the marriage doesn't work, I can get a divorce," because it's easier to fill out paperwork than to put in the time and effort to make the marriage work.

While there are many different reasons for divorce, a few are common: poor communication, financial issues, lack of commitment, infidelity and a change in priorities. With the exception of financial issues, the reasons point to the selfish attitude of one or more people in the relationship.

 Communication is only a problem when someone doesn't want to listen. Commitment to the marriage requires work and compromise, words that are not found in the lazy, egotistical American dictionary. Sneaking out on a spouse to be fulfilled by someone else is not only dishonest, but selfish. People that cheat are looking for a quick fix to make themselves happier all while disregarding the feelings of their partner. Changing priorities is also a quick fix.

People who give up on marriage feel that it can't be changed for the better, so they concentrate on changing something else in their lives, like concentrating on work or a new hobby. Having something else to concentrate their energy on creates temporary happiness and a way to escape the troubles at home.


According to The State of Our Unions, 2005, marriages have declined 50% from 1970, because more people are choosing cohabitation, or living together without a legal commitment, over marriage. Marriage is being replaced by cohabitation because it requires less of a commitment. Cohabitating couples have twice the breakup rate of married couples because there is less reason to work on the relationship.

 With cohabitation people don't have to worry about the legal repercussions of divorce and leaving is as easy as packing. Studies have proved that cohabitating before marriage increases the chances of divorce up to 85%, so even if live-in couples eventually marry, it is likely that they will divorce.
 
Parents don't take the needs of their children into consideration over their own needs as often as they should. 40% of cohabitating couples bring children into the relationship, creating less stability for the children and teaching them that relationships don't require commitment. Children from divorce are more likely to develop social problems and their grades are 20% lower than students living with both parents.

The U.S. has the lowest number of children who grow up with both biological parents among Western nations, 63%.

Society should value family over the individual. The American attitude needs to be changed because commitment and responsibility are becoming second to personal needs.

 If people thought of "us" more then "me," there would be more happy marriages. People need to accept that relationships take time and work, not only for themselves, but for the well-being of their children.

 

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