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Showing posts with label and Divorce. Show all posts

How to Find Out If Someone Has Been Married Before ?

How to Find Out If Someone Has Been Married Before ?


Two of the most frequently asked questions by people in relationships are 1. Is the person I'm with married and 2.How to find out if someone has been married before? Normally when people get into relationships they either don't ask or don't bother to find out. Yet these questions are the ones that should be settled before you commit yourself to anything.

Anyway if you are at that point where you cannot ask or don't believe the answers that you are getting you can get your own proof of this. Marriage and divorce records are some of the records under state jurisdiction that are now required by law to be made public. What this simply means is that they are available for viewing to anyone.

This has made accessing public records the one of the easiest ways how to find out if someone has been married before. Thanks to computers and the internet you can even retrieve them online and this has become the most widely employed way. Online retrieval is popular because of its speed and convenience. For someone who doesn't want to raise suspicion it offers anonymity and discretion.

By proving basic information such as the person's name, age and the state they are residing in, it should be enough to get you the answer you are looking for. This is one really good undercover way of getting information without ever getting caught. If the person you are with has been married before they should have a file in the divorce registry. You could also double check in the marriage records. The person might still be married for all you know.

There are people who go on separation for long periods and if you want ways on how to find out if some has been married before, don't just look up divorce records look up marriage records too. You can never be too sure.

Child Custody Rights - Married Vs Unmarried Parents ?

Child Custody Rights - Married Vs Unmarried Parents ?




Are you looking for information about child custody rights? When you know what your custody rights and visitation rights are as a parent it can help you make more informed choices if you are involved in a custody battle, which can ultimately result in a better outcome for you and your children. 

Being informed of your rights and options and choosing the right course of action for your situation is critical at every step in the divorce process when children are involved. However, state laws and statutes regarding custody rights related to custody and visitation can vary from state to state.

 As a result, parents will want to spend time becoming educated on their rights as it relates to custody determinations and modifications in their state and how it may be different for mothers and fathers and also different for married verses unmarried parents.

It is important for married mothers and fathers and unwed moms and dads involved in a custody dispute to know what their child custody rights are. Mother's rights and dad's rights when married are often different than that of married parents. Married parents typically have equal parenting rights and share guardianship over their children, and upon separation or divorce, each parent typically has an equal right to custody. 

However, unmarried parents rights may be different as unmarried parents may not be afforded the same benefit of having these presumed rights. However, this may depend on specific state custody laws and statutes.

While unmarried parents can petition the court for the same types of child custody arrangements as divorced parents, unwed fathers are often faced with an additional challenge that mothers do not have. An unmarried father may not be presumed to have the right to custody of his child or be able to get custody and visitation rights until he establishes paternity. Paternity refers to a legal process by which the father of a child is established. 

After paternity is established, dad can gain custody and visitation rights and child support can be awarded and set according to state law child support guidelines.

Whether you are a married mother or father or unmarried mom or dad it is important to be informed of your child custody rights and become educated on the subject of custody determinations and modifications.


Married Same Sex Couples With Kids May See Higher Taxes ?

Married Same Sex Couples With Kids May See Higher Taxes ?


Now that same sex couples are required to file joint tax returns with the IRS, recent Supreme Court tax rulings on phasing out income tax credits for families may lead to higher taxes for married same sex spouses who have children. The June 26 strike down of the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) ruled it unconstitutional to exclude state-sanctioned, same sex marriages from the federal definition of marriage. While the ruling will make it undoubtedly easier for same sex couples to file their taxes,

 it must be noted that with this ruling comes a host of tax and benefits changes that may spell the opposite of tax relief for married same sex couples. Before the ruling, married same sex couples had to calculate their taxes twice.

Many tax issues arise when couples have a small disparity between their salaries, as it looks like a married couple with close incomes will probably have to pay more as a married couple than they would as single people. If there is a wide disparity between incomes between spouses, it's likely they'll pay less total taxes as a married couple as they would single people.

Tax relief may also fall short when it comes to married same sex couples with children, thanks to the loss of the Earned Income Tax Credit. So-called marriage penalties can come into play when a couple's joint income pushes them into a range where they can no longer collect that credit or are ineligible for that credit. What's more, the phase-out threshold for married couples to collect the Child Tax Credit is less than twice that for unmarried individuals. Therefore, two single individuals might each quality for that credit, but receive a smaller credit or even become ineligible if married.

Married same sex couples in which one same sex spouse wants to adopt the other spouse's child may find themselves ineligible on the Adoption Tax Credit, as the credit isn't available when adopting a spouse's child. Same sex couples must also aware that they may also lose the Child and Dependent Care Credit if one spouse has no income.

Recent Supreme Court rulings and the June 26 strike down of DOMA will undoubtedly have much impact on credits and  issues for married same sex couples. Many may find themselves facing a stronger need to seek out help this year just to be sure that they are taking advantage of every deduction possible. As always, it's best to work with a qualified tax professional when navigating such issues.


Getting Married? 104 Things You Need to Do Before You Get Married, If You Don't Want to Get Divorced !

Getting Married? 104 Things You Need to Do Before You Get Married, If You Don't Want to Get Divorced!


We spend time, money and spirit on planning a wedding.. It's time to plan for a successful and healthy relationship by preparing and getting to know ourselves, the person we are marrying and who we will be as a couple for the rest of our lives.

For You

1. Ask several people, who you are close with, about how they felt when they were about to get married
2. Go to dinner on your own...and don't bring a book
3. Write your own eulogy.
4. Do something you never thought you would do
5. Write down 10 lessons that you've learned in life so far
6. Make a vision board of how you see your life in 5 yrs and 10yrs
7. Rekindle a relationship that meant something to you
8. Travel to another country on your own
9. Go on a trip with your friends
10. Figure out your boundaries limits and deal breakers
11. Decide your what your definition of marriage is (forever or until it doesn't work)
12. Figure out what will change for you once you get married (your name, where you live
13. Decide what marriage is to you (a religious stage or legal status)
14. Spend time with your partners family and friends with out them
15. Make time for yourself and to spend time with your friends
16. Get in shape
17. Eat well if you don't already
18. Stay in bed all day and night reading, watching tv or what ever you like to do in bed
19. Go over health insurance, legal papers and will
20. Pay off as much debt as you can
21. Come to terms with what you feel about alcohol, drugs and smoking
22. Consider not marrying this person and see how it feels
23. Do a wine tasting
24. Attend at least 5 seminars, workshops or classes about love, sex, relationships, marriage or all of the above
25. Join a sports team or do yoga
26. Spend one whole day pampering yourself
27. Take an art class
28. Find your passion
29. Masturbate until orgasm
30. Watch porn or go to a strip club
31. Commit to improving something about yourself every day
32. Ask your friends and family how they feel about who you decided to marry
33. Make a commitment to be true to who you are
34. Wake up every day and say "love _____ and I love my life"

For your partner

1. Give them the last bite of a great dessert
2. Listen more than you speak
3. Reiterate what he/she tells you in your own words to make sure you understood what they meant
4. Accentuate their positive qualities
5. Talk about things you know they're interested in
6. Ask them how their day was
7. Greet them with a smile and a kiss
8. Ask you're in-laws permission to marry their son/daughter
9. Remind your partner daily about all their positive attributes
10. Take care to look in your partners eyes when they are talking to you
11. Commit to doing whatever it takes to please your partner sexually
12. Always take your partners opinion into consideration
13. Ask your partner what he/she would like to do before the marriage and help him/her do it
14. Steal moments
15. Plan a romantic date
16. Plan an adventurous date
17. Tell your partner about any health issues you may have
18. Ask your partner about the things that trigger anger in them
19. Decide to never disrespect your partner (especially in front of others)
20. Realize that there are just some things your partner does that you won't understand
21. Ask your partner to share a meaningful childhood experience with you
22. Ask your partner to share a scary experience from childhood with you
23. Balance humility with confidence
24. Have phone sex
25. Talk dirty in bed
26. Whisper in their ear how lucky you are to have them in your life while out with friends/family
27. Whisper in their ear, in public how sexy they look and what you're going to do to them when you get home
28. Talk to their friend when they are upset or need a shoulder to cry on
29. Confide in your partner about important decisions
30. Help them accomplish something they never thought they could
31. Learn how to cook their favorite meal
32. Get them to try something they never thought they would
33. Make yourself available when they are upset (no matter what)
34. Surprise them with a gift or flowers for no reason
35. Do that thing you promised you would do, but haven't got to.

Sexual Seduction Techniques - How to Get Married Women in Bed !

Sexual Seduction Techniques - How to Get Married Women in Bed!


Many men are looking to seduce married women. This is not surprising since there are a number of challenge and a great deal of intrigue involved. The rewards of success can be far greater than any single woman. Certainly the sheer exhilaration of success in this area will make the additional challenge worth it.

In many ways, married women are no different from any other woman. They still have the same needs: The need to feel loved, cared for, and appreciated. Where the seducer may have an advantage in seducing married women is in how he can demonstrate to her that he can fulfill those needs. She needs to know that it is a two way street and that it is about her also.

Make no mistake about it, however, to be successful in this area, your game will have to be advanced. This is very different from just trying to get the attention of some young woman in a bar. Married women are far more apt to be in public places, in earshot of passers-by, and quite possibly her children.

Here are a few tips that you can use right now:
Find a discrete moment. You know very well that she does not want to be noticed talking to someone who is not her husband, and if you are not discrete about it, people will notice.

Let her know that it would just be a one time thing. Chances are, she does not want to ruin her marriage, she only wants a momentary distraction.

Begin with a simple, non- sexual complement. If she has been married for any length of time, I can assure you, she doesn't hear that anymore.

If you want to be successful at seducing women, then you will need to be in control of every female encounter.

Get Married Young - How to Get Engaged at an Early Age ?

Get Married Young - How to Get Engaged at an Early Age ?


As a young lady with the dream of having a family as early as 18 or 20 years old, you've probably said many times, "I want to get married young." And of course to achieve that goal, you need to find a willing partner, a man who wants to marry you at that age. Based on the statistics in this day and age though, having that happen is easier said than done.

One of the biggest reasons why marriage happens less often and women stay single longer is because they have difficulty getting their boyfriends to propose. The other reason is because so many couples find themselves missing out on the keys to making a marriage last. Therefore the divorce rate escalates and that sets the example for the generations to come.

Heck, who wants to get married if you're just going to get divorced right?

Fortunately for you, there is actually good news in the midst of these gloomy facts. That is that getting your boyfriend to marry you when he isn't ready is actually easier than you might think. Plus, making your marriage last has much better odds as well... when you apply the tips here to make it happen.

There are certain things that are important for you to know to get an unwilling boyfriend to propose. And keeping these things in mind during the course of your marriage will help keep the two of you sailing along smoothly on the sea of love.
Here are the tips you need to know.

First, you must understand that men and women process feelings differently. As a female you know how you respond when your emotions are involved. You also know the impact that love has on those emotions.

For men though, it's different. You can liken their emotional responses to "gut instinct."
You'll have a feeling and your heart will tell you what to do with it. Men will have the feeling and they will go with their gut instinct to process it. And trust me, a heart and a gut respond to things in completely different ways.

What your goal needs to be is to take that love feeling he has for you and combine it with his gut instinct in such a way that the idea of marrying you just makes perfect sense. When it makes that kind of sense then putting a ring on your finger is simply a given thing not only that he must do... but that he enthusiastically wants to do.

So how do you do that?
Well, you have to be the perfect fit for him in such a way that while by himself he is strong and powerful, when you are added to the mix... he becomes a "force to reckon with." He feels literally unstoppable.

Okay, you're probably thinking that sounds great... but what will that take? Valid question. Here are a few ideas.
What that requires is you being a strong independent woman who is confident and happy on your own. Having him around is the perfect compliment for you as well.

In addition to that though you'll need to give him the encouragement and support he needs by subtly guiding him. You need to give him space and appreciate and respect the fact that he needs that space.

The most important thing you can do to get engaged now is revealed in this free video. Discover the biggest secret to what a man wants in a woman so he will propose and this get married young!


Social Security, Retirement Benefits, and Divorce ?

Social Security, Retirement Benefits, and Divorce ?

Social Security in the United States refers directly to a lesser known federal Old Age, Survivors and Disability Insurance program or OASDI. The program was originally rolled out in the 1930's in an attempt to limit what were seen as dangers to the American way of life such as increased life expectancy, poverty, and fatherless children. So the Social Security Act, signed in 1935, created social insurance programs to provide benefits to retirees, the unemployed, and as well as a lump sum benefit to the family at death.

 Many amendments have been made since the original Social Security Act of 1935. Most importantly; Medicare was added in 1965. The Social Security Act of 1965 also recognized for the first time that divorce was becoming a common cause for the end of marriages and added divorcees to the beneficiary list.
The largest component of benefits is retirement income.

 Throughout a person's working life the Social Security Administration keeps track of income and taxpayers fund the program via payroll taxes also known as FICA (Federal Insurance Contributions Act) taxes. The amount of the monthly benefit to which the worker is entitled depends upon the earnings record and upon the age at which the retiree chooses to begin receiving benefits.

FICA taxes are 7.65% for employees and 15.3% for self employed individuals. The amount of taxes paid is not directly used to calculate an individual's benefit. The rate is broken down into two parts: Social Security and Medicare. The portion is 6.2% and is paid on a maximum of $106,800 of income for 2009. The income maximum is also known as a wage base. The Medicare portion is 1.45% on all earnings. These rates are set by law and haven't changed since 1990. The wage base for Social Security is indexed each year for inflation and Medicare has maintained an unlimited base since 1993.


Self employed person's pay double the amount of tax because the employer is responsible for the other half of an employee's liability. A self employed individual is both employer and employee. There are wages not subject to FICA taxes including some state and local government employees who participate in alternative programs such as CalSTRS and CalPERS. Each state and local government unit with a pension plan decides whether to elect Social Security and Medicare coverage.

Civilian federal employees are covered by Medicare but usually not Social Security.
The earliest age at which reduced benefits are payable is 62. The age at which full retirement benefits are available is dependent upon the taxpayers age. An increase of regular retirement age was enacted to reduce the amount of benefits payable. For those currently over age 70 the normal age was 65. Anyone born after will fall somewhere on increasing scale which climbs incrementally to age 67 depending upon birth date. Anyone born after 1960 must reach age 67 for normal retirement benefits. Delaying receipt of benefits will increase a taxpayer's benefit until age 70.


Benefits are paid from taxes collected from other tax-payers. This makes it a pay as you go system and will eventually be directly responsible for the downfall of the program. At least as we know it today. In 2009, nearly 51 million Americans will receive $650 billion in Social Security Benefits. Economists project that payroll taxes will no longer be sufficient to fund benefits somewhere in the next 10 to 15 years. Once we can't cover the expense from cash flow, the program will begin drawing down the trust fund it has accumulated during times of surplus taxes.

We can only speculate what happens when the trust fund runs out. This is the cause for concern often discussed in the news and other media. The fix for this problem is the subject of much political posturing including that witnessed in President Bush's 2005 State of the Union address.


The first reported Social Security payment was to Ernest Ackerman, who retired only one day after Social Security began. Five cents were withheld from his pay during that period, and he received a lump-sum payout of seventeen cents from Social Security. This might give you an indication of how Social Security handles business.


A current spouse is eligible to receive survivor benefits equal to 100% of the deceased worker's benefit if they have reached normal retirement age.

Divorced spouses are eligible for benefits equal to one half of the worker's benefit if they were married for 10 years have not remarried and are at least 62 years old. This is called a derivative benefit. A spousal applicant must wait until the worker has reached retirement age, 62, in order to apply for benefits. The worker is not required to have applied for benefits in order for the ex-spouse to apply for spousal benefits. They are not entitled to increases for benefits taken after normal retirement age.

If a worker has died and the ex-spouse has reached full retirement age they can receive 100% of the worker's benefit as survivor benefits.

If an applicant is between age 62 and their normal retirement age; the application for benefits will be based on the applicant's earnings record. If one half of an ex-spouse's benefit is greater than the applicant's benefit on their own record; the applicant can choose to take whichever is greater. If you wait until your normal retirement age and file for spousal benefits you can continue to accrue benefits and enhancements for delaying your own retirement up until your age 70.


An ex-spouse's receipt of derivative benefits on the worker's record does not reduce the worker's benefits. It is even possible for more than one ex-spouse to collect on the worker's derivative benefits. This could lead to as much as 500% of the original benefit being claimed by the five ex-spouses.


Windfall Elimination Provision and Government Pension Offset Provision
For those worker's who are covered by a pension based on their own earnings not covered by Social Security a different method of computing benefits applies. The alternative method is called the Windfall Elimination Provision (WEP) and was created to close a loophole that enabled worker's who earned benefits in covered and non-covered employment from being labeled a low-earning worker and receiving a disproportionately large Social Security benefit.


The formula is weighted in favor of low earners because such a person is more dependent on Social Security. If the WEP is applicable it reduces a worker's Social Security benefit by 50% of the worker's pension benefit up to a maximum of $380.50 in 2010.

If you earned a pension based on work where you did not pay Social Security taxes, your Social Security spousal or derivative benefits may be reduced. The Government Pension Offset Provision (GPO) was enacted to treat retired government employees who had not contributed to Social Security similarly to retirees who had. The GPO reduces derivative benefits by two-thirds of other government pensions received. This can reduce Social Security benefits to zero.


The truly important ramification of the WEP and GPO on Social Security retirement benefits comes into play during divorce proceedings. Federal Law makes Social Security benefits the separate property of the party that earned them.


They are not assignable or divisible in a family law court and not considered an asset of the community in California.

Government and other pensions, on the other hand, are considered community property in the state of California to the extent benefits were earned during marriage. Derivative benefits under the Social Security program for ex-spouses would seem, at first glance to remedy the problem.

The non-worker spouse get's half of the worker's retirement benefit via derivative benefit payments. Getting to the true ramifications of the WEP and GPO during divorce proceedings requires sound financial planning.

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