How to Be Close Friends With a Married Woman ?

There is no big deal being friends or even dating a married woman so far your intent is non sexual. Friendships and relationships strive on understanding of the two parties and also maturity plays a vital role in this kind of relationship. Marriage is a sacred union between a man and a woman and anyone who put asunder is bound to be doomed. The intent of this article is not to teach you to have sex with a married woman or snatch her from her husband; but its just a guide to having a platonic relationship with a married woman.

 So here goes; someone might say "why being close to a married woman when there are millions of young single ladies out there to be dated and to have a relationship with?" Yes why this question might be logical but you would bear with me that there are people you naturally like or just blend with whether they are married or not, it's just chemistry and nature.

Now I have to warn at this point that if you have to be friends with a married woman you should be very careful. Below are some tips on how to go about this kind of relationship:

1. Make her realise that you like her not for any sexual reasons: I advise to be careful with your choice of words, when talking to her don't be flirty, keep it real and natural. You need to make her understand that you respect the fact that she is married and you just need to be friends with her. If she likes you naturally then it's a plus for you.

2. Be careful with the phone calls: Common sense should tell you when to call a married woman or not; unless she does the calling at this period, then do not call. If she is the regular 8am - 4pm worker, you can send her a text during this period and if she is disposed she can text back or call. Please do not call her from 7pm upwards, you should know that she could be having a happy time with her family. Weekend calls should be avoided unless she opens up communication with you and wants to see you, please do not jeopardize her marriage.

3. Make her family your friend: Yes while this might sound a little awkward but it helps build the relationship. We all know that most men are possessive about their wives; if she introduces you to her husband and you sound and act withdrawn and he ever has a slight feeling of you trying to have an affair with his wife, then the friendship is done for. Instead when you meet her husband be jovial and free, if she got kids better for you - just play with them and make them your friends. If they call you Uncle "good thing". Some ice cream would do though. With these you have got a ticket to the family

4. Erase every erotic thoughts: I am sure you know what adultery is? I am not about advising you to have sex with a married woman as you would be subject to eternal damnation. Secondly if you lure her and finally have sex with her, chances are she would hate you later on when she realises you were a sly fox who just wanted to get her laid. While some married women my enjoy having sex with another man, I don't advise that because it spoils a lot of thing. You should ask yourself how you would feel when you find out that another man slept with your wife.

5. Be careful with the show of emotions: When giving her gifts please do this with care. Do not give a gift that depicts intimacy. This would mean getting her to think wide, most women are touchy people so you should not make her feel you have plans other than just being friends

My Boyfriend Doesn't Want To Get Married Again Because Of His Nasty Divorce - What Can I Do?

I sometimes hear from women who are in love with a man who has previously gone through a nasty divorce. This has often left him scarred and not too anxious to walk down the aisle again. And this can be an issue when the new woman in his life wants to be married.

I heard from a wife who said: "I've met a wonderful man and we are compatible in nearly every way. We have endless fun together and I am very happy. I can easily envision myself spending the rest of my life with this man. I love his children as much as I love him. The only problem that we have is our view on marriage. He divorced his first wife 14 months ago. It was a nasty divorce where they fought over custody of the kids.

 It ended up being very expensive and drastically changing his lifestyle because of money. He says that he will never get married again because he never wants there to even be a slight chance that he will go through another divorce. He says he'd never put his family through that again. Well, where does that leave me? I've never been married and I want that family and that security. But he's doing his best to make it clear that marriage is out of the question. I can't bear the thought of walking away from him. What can I do?"

I could feel the raw emotion in this letter. It seemed clear that this couple was a sound match. And the fact that there was only that one issue between them was sad, but certainly not something that couldn't be worked through. As I saw it, there were really two options. She could decide that his reluctance to get married again would be a deal breaker for her because she didn't want to waste valuable time on a potential dead end.

 Or, she could vow to give this some time and then reevaluate her feelings on this issue at a later time, knowing that things can change. I will tell you why I like the second option better.

Why Giving Him More Time Makes More Sense: Frankly, it's my belief that perfect matches with someone who puts butterflies in your stomach is rare. Having a strong relationship with someone with whom you share the same outlook is even more rare. And yet, she had both of these in one man.

Sure, his reluctance to marry again was problematic and she was right to be upset. But the truth is, 14 months is not very long when your family life is turned upside down. Everyone needed time to adjust and to heal. And with time, once he saw that every one came out of the situation just fine, he may well change his mind.

It's very common for people to change their stance on things once the immediacy of the situation wanes. In time, the husband would likely not dwell so much about how his last marriage ended. He might start to remember the good that came out of it - namely, his children. Once this happened, it was possible that he might be more open to marrying again, but there is no need to rush.

This relationship, though wonderful, wasn't all that mature. So it made sense to stay the course and to continue to strengthen the relationship in order to calm his fears and doubts. Because at the end of the day, what this woman wanted was a healthy and happy marriage (and possibly a family of her own.) She made this much more likely if she gave him the time to heal and allowed for their relationship to be as solid as it could possibly be.

I know that it's tempting to rush him or pressure him, but much of the time, this will make him back away even more. You are so much better off making your relationship so good that he no longer has any doubts because he wants to give his entire heart to you when he has healed enough to do this without any doubts or reservations.

SIX Tips for a Happy Married Life ?

I am sad to see many failed marriages. People are busy. They try to emulate others. They compare their spouse with their family members and friends and thereby kill the uniqueness of their relation. Here are few suggestions to fuel your marriage to happiness and make it long-lasting.

1. Uniqueness - As a couple, you must be aware that you are a special and unique. Your story is unique. Your circumstances and experiences are unique. Opportunities and threats for your relation will be unique too. Your relation is a journey. Live through every moment. Don't try to emulate experiences of your siblings, parents and friends. They have their own journey, which is different from yours.

2. Time - No matter how busy you are, take some time out for each other. "I don't have time" or "I am busy with office work" does not work.

3. Individuality - As a couple, you will often be considered as a single unit. However, remember that you two are different individuals and have different identity. There can be disagreement. There can be difference of opinion. It is these differences of opinions that gives strength to your relation and provide the uniqueness. Unfortunately, you didn't marry your clone. Between two of you have space to accommodate these differences. Before you love accept each other as an individual. 

4. Communication - Doesn't matter what medium you decide to choose but communicate as often as possible. Silence is a language too but in this era, it is not as effective as it used to be. Communicate to kill rumours. Communicate to dissolve misunderstandings. Communicate to destroy gossips. If you will not communicate, others will, not for you but about you. Your spouse must be aware of everything about you that can affect the present and future of your relation.

5. Love & Respect - Love is strength of your relation. Love each other without reason. Don't look for occasions to express your love. Express it anyways, all the time. Your love is a reason for your family (next generation); your family is not a reason for your love. It is sad to hear people saying that they are living together for the future of their kids and not because they are in love with each other.

6. Trust - Trust each other and stay loyal. Trust and loyalty are glues that keep the relation together. If you cannot trust one another then you cannot live together, doesn't matter who much you love each other. Love without trust is false and unreal.

Long and happy marriage is not a destination. It is work-in-progress. It requires sincere and honest effort from both the individuals involved in it. Living together shall not be a social responsibility. It must not be a fear. It must not be a compulsion or a duty. It must be passion. It must be fun and enjoyment. And more importantly, it must help you grow - together and individually.

Search Colorado Divorce Records Online ?

Understanding someone's marital history helps you understand your partner better. Regardless of what your other told you about his or her marital past, it is better to know for certain. This not only helps protect you from hurt, but also gives you an early warning so you can be better prepared to face potential problems in the relationship.


If you find out that your spouse or boyfriend has been lying to you by checking divorce records, you should be more careful to protect yourself. Marriage and divorce records are more than just an important source of information to conduct background checks, but searching divorce records can help strengthen your relationship, or help you escape an abusive one.

Taking a couple of minutes to examine the records can save you a great deal of hurt.
Divorce records provides information such as names, addresses, date and time, children custody, alimony, reasons for divorce and many other details.

 These information are invaluable when it comes to conducting background checks. Since divorce is often regarded as a sensitive topic, looking through divorce records may be better than asking the person outright, which could be more than uneasy.


Colorado divorce records can be obtained in person at the county courthouse which the divorce was filed or by writing the vital records office. However, technology has advanced to our convenience and you can now search Colorado divorce records online. You can actually search national for any state or county public records online.


With divorce being such a sensitive issue, credible and confidentiality is often of paramount importance.