Why do people get married-the solution?


I haven't been blogging regularly because i have been very busy. I could have tried to make time to post but to be honest, whenever I force myself to make time to blog and there's barely any response, it doesn't motivate me to go out of my way to do it.

Anyway, i read Charles Oputa's advice to his daughter this morning as i was eating breakfast and it just validated my thoughts and feelings on so many levels where can gay people get married. I have been struggling with my thoughts on marriage for a long time why do people get married.

Unlike a lot of girls, i have never dreamt of getting married or looked forward to it or even particularly wanted it. I think, It would be fair to say i have been neutral about it, meaning i didn't want it or not want it. When i was 21, i mentioned it to a friend and he said, i am just talking that way because i am still young. Time has passed and nothing has changed, if anything, i have been leaning on the side not seeing the point of it why do people get married.

I've taken an intellectual approach to it and have been asking why people getting married? Why do we have to get married?
What's the purpose? Especially where it seems like the institution has become a joke why do people get married. People jump in and out of it. Lots of people are not happily married, both men and women people getting married. Some Nigerian men in Nigeria (and elsewhere, i guess) think they are doing women a favor by getting married to them. So despite having a ring on their finger they continue to have girlfriends.

 The stories i hear constantly just turn me away from ever desiring to get married why do people get married. I've been struggling to make a decision people getting married. I have mentioned it to my mom a couple of times and she "rejected" it. Otherwise, my parents have been the best and unlike a lot of Nigerian parents have NEVER pressured me or even brought it up as a subject to be discussed people getting married.

My mother has told me marriage is not a do or die affair and she wouldn't support us staying in a bad marriage just for the sake of being married. On my birthday, 2 years ago, she called me, after wishing me a happy birthday and the usual prayers, she told me to take my time and not be worried about getting married, that there's no point rushing in and then rushing out. Meanwhile i have friends who i am older than that their mother's won't give them a break about getting married.

I was reading comments on "Marriage shock' on Bellanaija yesterday and people getting married i just kept thinking to myself that i don't want to get married. With each comment i read, that was the only thought that came to my head. I have come to associate marriage with a lot of unhappiness and stress and being stuck.

 I think a lot of times, the women get the short end of the stick and it's not fair but because society expects it, you have to suck it up and learn to be a "good wife" why do people get married. It will never be okay to me that a guy gets to chill and put his feet up why do people get married, while the wife (or even girlfriend in some cases) runs around to serve him like his maid why do people get married.

I was talking to a guy whom i used to like a few years ago, yesterday why do people get married. He actually asked me to marry him in a roundabout way people getting married, 2 years ago by saying "He wanted to get this marriage thing out of the way and i knew him and all his flaws why do people get married, good and bad and it was up to me to decide if i would be able to deal with it" why do people get married. I jejely told him he was exactly right and i knew him well enough to know that i would not be able to cope with his bad side people getting married. Mr. Man is meanandharsh people getting married .

com. People getting married Anyway, we haven't spoken for a long while and i don't know what we were talking about, by he told me to "Shut up" people getting married. Very matter of fact why do people get married. I don't remember the last time anyone told me to shut up people getting married.

Why would anyone speak to me that way. The way he talks was a bone of contention back then, and after he did that yesterday, I finally accepted that this is just him. Anyway, i told him he was too harsh and i don't know how anyone can be with him and be happy people getting married. Then he said that most Nigerian women like a guy who is controlling. I was quick to tell him where can gay people get married,

 i don't agree with him and i don't like a controlling guy. He told me to speak for myself and not speak for other women and besides i was not a typical Nigerian woman people getting married. He wasn't joking why do people get married.

At this point in my life, marriage is not something i am eager for where can gay people get married. I am not saying that i won't get married, ever but if i do, it will not be something i enter into lightly. Ideally, i want to marry someone who i can honestly say is my best friend, in the true sense of the word. Someone who understands that relationships are hard work and is willing to put in the effort and the time to help us have a decent relationship why do people get married.

 I don't want to marry anyone who believes the primary reason to be married is to have a wife and a woman to have his kids. I think kids are secondary in a marriage and should be taken as a bonus why do people get married. Mr. Man actually told me yesterday that he agrees a lot of women are not happily married but that they get their consolation from their kids and that's where married women should look for their happiness from. That's not me.

 If i want to be a single parent and have kids, then i will do that where can gay people get married. But if i want to be married, then let me be married in the true sense of the word, which means having a partner and friend to go through life with where can gay people get married.

That being said, i am a realist. There are good men, i am pretty sure of it but they are not the norm.So what do you do when settling is not an option and you can't imagine yourself being stuck in an unhappy marriage just because society expects that from you where can gay people get married?

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